Wednesday 30 November 2011

Goodbye Facebook - Article by a Muslim Woman

My high school friends told me about Facebook. Since all of them had an account, I decided to create one myself although I was very nonchalant about my account. I had never displayed my pictures on social sites and told myself that I would not display my pictures on Facebook. But then everybody I knew had their pictures on. So, I started uploading pictures, and before I knew it, I had a million pictures of mine there.

What happened next was that brothers I knew started adding me. I was reluctant in the beginning, but a voice inside me told me to grow up and that it was no big deal. The first comment I got was from a brother I studied with – “Nice picture, Maryam.” What did he mean by that? I asked myself. Was he being chummy? Honestly speaking, I felt so bad when he wrote that comment on my wall, but then a voice inside my heart told me not to overreact and to show some manners so I thanked him.

I don’t know what happened next, but I started following the dunya. The values I stood up for and walked with became obsolete to me. My compromises turned into huge sacrifices. I became so desensitized and immune to the haram that was happening. I forgot that there was a God out there watching me, and I forgot that I was supposed to emulate the best of mankind- RasulAllah salla Allahu ‘alayhi wasallam. Random people would message me asking me for friend requests; they said I was “pretty” and they wanted to be friends with me. I even got some proposals on Facebook- can you believe it! And there were lists of stalkers who kept sending me stupid messages and songs on YouTube through fake accounts in my inbox.

Later, when I had pulled back a bit from Facebook, I stopped interacting with a lot of brothers there because a verse from the Quran kept spinning in my head:

I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me. [51:56]

When I woke up from my stupor, I realized that I had become some other Maryam I never wanted to be. I had so many friends, but I was never happy because none of them reminded me of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. None of them ever told me that displaying my pictures like that or chatting with random people was wrong and against the sunnah. Shaytan loves spreading promiscuity and hates modesty, and somehow I had chosen to follow him instead of following Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.

Prophet Muhammed salla Allahu alayhi wasallam said:

Modesty is part of faith and faith is in paradise, but obscenity is part of hardness of heart and hardness of heart is in hell. (Ahmad, Tirmidhi)

I had faith, and I was a monotheist. But where was my hayaa, and where were my priorities? I had become a slave of my desires. Islam came to guide man, and here I was in the shackles of my own desires, other people, and the media. Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala, has said:

“Have you seen him who takes his own lust (vain desires) as his ilah (god)?” [45:23]

In light of this verse, Imam Al-Ghazali said:

“Those who follow their own passions do not conform to monotheism, because anyone who follows his own passions makes them the object of his worship. The monotheist is he who sees nothing but the One God and only turns his face to Him.”

I removed all my pictures and changed the privacy settings of my account, but I still felt that my soul was filthy. My heart was hard. Even the Quran failed to penetrate my heart and didn’t make me cry anymore. I had everything I wanted, but something inside me was dying. It was my Iman. My Iman was suffocating.

I realized that the only way to purify my nafs was to leave things that distracted me. True, Facebook had its advantages, but for me, it was like alcohol; its detriment was greater than its benefit. So I decided to give it up for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. For months I struggled with my decision. It was hard saying goodbye to everyone, but I told them that I would be available by email if they needed me, and I requested them to remove, crop, or blur my pictures from Facebook because a voice inside me said, Maryam your face is precious and only for your hubby to see. Yes, I struggled, and it was hard: I gave up so many things which I feared would not benefit me in the Hereafter. I am still in the process of purifying my heart and always will be inshaAllah because it’s a lifelong struggle. Sometimes, things we do seem good to us, but they slowly poison our Iman.

Sheikh Reda Bedier said: “Watch the little things; a small leak will sink a great ship.”

You see, sometimes, we have our feet in two separate boats, one which has the flag of our desires on it and the other which says, “I love you, Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala.” It’s sad how we juggle between what’s necessary and what’s not and prefer what our heart desires over what our Khaliq wants us to do. Ustaad Khurram Murad said:

“Your Qalb (heart) cannot be compartmentalized. You cannot dedicate one piece of it to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and another to some other god, like wealth, status, career, spouse and so on. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala is One, Indivisible and wants the human being to be undivided in service to Him. So long as our heart lies in a hundred places, so long as our eyes are set in a hundred directions, so long as we have many loyalties, we shall never be able to achieve that condition of ‘holding onto Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala’.”

Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has said:

“O you who believe! Enter into Islam whole heartedly without any reservation.” [2: 208]

I want you to know, that if I can do it, then you can too. If you have anything in your heart that perturbs you greatly and it gives you sleepless nights, ask yourself one question: “Am I prepared for my death, my akhirah?” Truth is, nothing in life is guaranteed but death. After deleting my Facebook account and saying goodbye to it for good inshaAllah, I have so much faith in Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala that He will give me a better platform to do dawah, one that will not distract me inshaAllah.

I pray that each and every one of us succeeds in becoming a believing, steadfast servant for Allah’s sake. May Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala, enable us to be amongst those who purify themselves and help us differentiate between right and wrong, Ameen.

Article written by Sister Maryam.

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Article Source: I Got It Covered (

A very interesting and thought-provoking article written by a sister called Maryam. It's always good to assess what we are doing in life and question ourselves to ensure that we maintain the condition of our Imaan. Facebook and how it is used varies from person to person, in the article, Sister Maryam is talking about her own personal experiences, she is not preaching to others and she is not arguing that people should leave Facebook, it's a personal decision for each person. For some people, it could be bringing them closer to Islam, yet for others that might not be the case (Sameer, Dadyal Online).

Tuesday 29 November 2011

Monday 28 November 2011

Namaz-E-Janazah of Shaheed Naik Ishfaq Pakistani Soldier from Dadyal

Naik Ishfaq, a Pakistani Soldier from Dadyal, Azad Kashmir, became Shaheed (martyred) after the NATO Attack on Pakistani Soliders on 26th November 2011. The incident led to serious concern across the nation, as over 20 other soldiers also became Shaheed. Questions are being asked globally about how Pakistan must change it's relationship with USA and there is anger amongst the Pakistani community across the globe at the current Government for allowing such incidents to happen.

This is a very difficult time for the family of the Dadyali Shaheed, his sacrifice will never be forgotten, he gave his life for the country and achieved martyrdom. Our thoughts and our prayers are with his family and with the families of all those Pakistani soldiers. Sadly, a son, a husband, a brother, a friend, will not be returning home, ever again. We sincerely hope that the Pakistani Army takes action and measures are introduced to ensure that this doesn't happen ever again. At the moment, temporary measures have been introduced by General Kayani and strategy review has been called for by the Government and the military.

Husband Murders Wife with Axe in Dadyal

A husband murdered his wife using an axe in Dadyal, Azad Kashmir. The couple had five children and the incident took place after a domestic dispute, the wife had gone to her parents house. The husband struck her with an axe and she was left with severe head injuries, she was being taken to hospital but sadly passed away before reaching the hospital. 

Sunday 27 November 2011

Islam Ko Apna Banaa Lo - Islamic Urdu Shayari

Islam ki roshni se apnay dilon main ujalon ki baarish kar do,

ek baar deen waali zindagi jee lo,

phir naa bhaago ke idhar udhar,

saari daulat, saari kamyaabi deen main karo haasil,

ek baar to mauqa dey do apnay aap ko,

zindagi ek baar hai, mauqa har roz naa khoya karo,

aaj hi shuru karo, aaj hi apnay Deen ko maqsad banaa lo,

ek baar zindagi ko jee lo, sakoon saaray jahaan ka apna banaa lo....

naa jiyo udhaasi main, naa andheron main raho,

aa jao Islam ko apna banaa lo...

Friday 25 November 2011

Wednesday 23 November 2011

Sunday 20 November 2011

In Loving Memory of my Beautiful Cat

Yaad hai mujhey jab tu aati thi mere paas,
shaam ka waqt hota tha aur hum roti khaa rahay hotay thay,
tera mere paas aana mujhey tang karta tha,
baar baar tujhay khaanay ke liye kuch deyna,
aur tera baar baar wapas aa jaana....

Itni pyaari itni masoom thi tu,
kaisay din thay woh jo guzar gaye,
teri khoobsurat aankhon main sachai thi,
tere kadmon main kuch baat thi...

Naa main teri boli ko samajh paaya,
naa tu meri zubaan main kuch keh paayi,
lekin aankhon se to aksar baatein kiya kartay thay..

Bas teri yaad hi reh gayi hai ab,
door ho gayi hai tu mujh se....
ek aakhri baar tujhey dekhnay ki arzoo
bhi adhoori reh gayi...

In memory of my lovely and cute cat

Saturday 19 November 2011

Bradford Jaana Hai Ya Phir London

Ek larkay ki mangni hui thi,
larka Dadyal ka tha aur larki Bradford ki,
larkay ka naam Salman tha aur larki ka naam Sonia.

Salman ne socha mera kaam to pakka ho gaya hai,
Sonia jaisi British larki ke saath rishta fix,
roz roz woh phone karti hai,
subah shaam mujhey yaad karti hai.

Ek din Salman ne Facebook pe kisi larki se gap shap shuru ki,
larki London ki thi aur us ka naam Reema tha....

Baaton baaton main larki ne Salman se kaha ke mujhay
shaadi karni hai aur main ek achay larkay ki talaash main hoon
Salman ne apna number diya aur kaha main tumhari madat karoonga.

Reema ne phone kiya aur Salman ko us ki awaaz pyaari lagi,
phir Reema ne photo send kiye,
Kuch hafton baad Salman ne socha yeh larki to kamaal hai,
main is ke saath shaadi kar leyta hoon,
waisay bhi Bradford main sarddi zyada hoti hai,
aur London aakhir capital city hai,
aur Reema to Sonia se bhi zyada khoobsurat lagti hai.

Salman bahadur tha aur us ne apni mangetar Sonia ko phone kiya,
aur sab kuch bataa diya,
Sonia ne gussay main kaha ke ab woh samajh gayi hai Salman ko,
aur woh rishta torrnay ke liye tayyar hai.

Salman khush hua ke kaam asaani se ho gaya,
Phir Salman ne Reema ko phone kiya, message send kiye,
lekin koi jawaab naa mila us ko.

Salman ne socha yeh kya hua, Reema kahan kho gayi.
Phir ek din Reema ne message kiya,
Main Sonia hoon aur maine Reema ka fake account banaya
tumhari asliyat ko jaanay ke liye, phone pe meri saheli thi aur
photo kisi aur ke thay.

Salman heyraan reh gaya aur us din us ne Facebook chor di.

Computer Science & Love Remixed

Abhi abhi to pyaar ka computer kiya hai chaaloo
Aab main dil ki hard disk pe aur kitni files daaloo

Apne chehare se ruswaai ka error to hatao
Ai jaaneman apne dil ka password to batao

Woh to hum hain jo aap ki chahat dil main rakhte hain
Warna aap jaise kitney hi softwares bazaar main bikte hain

Roz raat ko aap mere sapne main aate ho
Mere pyar ko mouse bana ke ungaliyon pe nachaate ho

Tere pyar ka email mere dil ko Lubhataa hai
Par beech main tere baap ka virus aataa hai

Aur karvaaoge humse kitnaa intezaar
Hamaare dil ki site pe kabhi enter to maro yaar

Apni insult ka badalaa dekhna main kaise loonga
Jaaneman tere baap ko Shift Delete kar doonga

Aap jaiso ke liye dil ko cut ker diya karte hai
Warna baaki cases main to copy paste kiya karte hai

Aapka hasnaa aap ka chalnaa aap ki woh style
Aapke adaaon ki hamne save hai kar li file

Thursday 17 November 2011

Save Yourself from Lying

Allah is with those who speak the truth, not with those who lie.

Always be honest even if it seems that you will lose out, because in reality those who always say the truth will not lose out.

One lie leads to another, and before you know it, you become a liar, and this will ruin your character.

Allah Dislikes the people that lie, so save yourself from this disease, as it can ruin you.

A very simple message, something that Islam tells us, but we must always remind ourselves. Like a good student always keeps revising his work before the exam, like a good cricketer continues to practice even when he is in good form, etc. Always remind yourself and others.

Islam is a simple religion, we just make it complicated. Allah (swt) Gave us Guidelines so that we can live a better life, not to Confuse or Complicate things for us.

Sometimes people lie and they say they are 'majboor' i.e. they don't have any choice, but those people that were closest to Allah (swt) they would not lie even if it meant that somebody would kill them. Can you imagine that level of Imaan, and today we lie over small things and lying becomes a normal thing for many people.

For example, we sell a car and the person buying it asks us if anything is wrong, we think if we tell him then he/she will give less money, so for money we are ready to lie/fool/deceive someone.

Where is our Imaan? Do we not Trust in we not realise that HE is the One that is keeping us going in life, whether it is our health or our wealth, ALLAH IS THE ONE IN CONTROL, so how can we do something He Hates so much i.e. lie.

Sameer - Dadyal Online

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